Ever notice that some of us have a harder time getting over a set-back?
That was definitely the case for one of my old clients, Grayson, who came to SelfDecode after struggling for many years.
He was smart, driven, the kind of guy who goes after it. He graduated top in his class and basically sprinted up the corporate ladder. On the outside, he seemed highly successful. Behind it all though, Grayson was working brutal hours, dealing with a narcissistic boss and teetering on exhaustion.
One day out of the blue, Grayson’s boss called him into his office to give him the news. He was being laid off.
Grayson was shell-shocked. He couldn’t think or focus. He had no idea this was coming. He started replaying important business meetings and conversations with his superiors over and over in his head. Where had he screwed up?
He became unable to function. As his bank account trended south, he knew he needed to find a new job, but he didn’t have the wherewithal to even update his LinkedIn.
Grayson started to experience learned helplessness. His brain function and focus dropped dramatically, and he was more on the edge. He couldn’t regulate his emotions anymore.
His friends tried to encourage him, but nothing helped.
He discovered he has several variants in his DNA that make him at risk for PTSD and depression. One was on his FAAH gene which works by modulating the amount of anandamide in our brain.
Anandamide, also called the *bliss* molecule, helps us feel calm, relaxed and free of pain.
However, Grayson’s increased FAAH enzyme rapidly broke down anandamide so he didn’t have a decent amount of it circulating around in his brain during his traumatic event, helping him to feel good.
What a relief for Grayson to learn his inability to function wasn’t a result of his being mentally ‘weak’. No, there was a real biochemical explanation.
Grayson implemented the targeted strategies we gave him that increased his anandamide.
For some, anadamide is the answer. For others it can be a different aspect of neurochemistry that increases the risk of trauma.
Today, Grayson’s still a thriving member of our SelfDecode community and he’s back to being at the top of his game, albeit it looks a little different.
He got a new job with a great company and he still works hard, but he also makes time to prioritize his health and fit in some play. He says his ruminating thoughts no longer haunt him. The clouds have lifted and he gets out of bed, looking forward to the day.
The thing is, trauma is not black or white.
We all have some trauma in our lives, to some degree.
And this trauma has a way of knocking us off our A-game. Maybe we get triggered by some inconsiderate driver, or hurt in some personal relationship or any number of traumatic events.
But the important thing isn’t what happens to you, it’s how you respond to it.
And how you respond to it isn’t something that is under your conscious control. It’s deep in your DNA & neurochemistry.
So don’t blame yourself for the trauma you’ve experienced or the inability to cope with it.
We all wish we were able to be completely cool in the face of hardships, but the difficulty is in actually being this way, which depends on our neurochemistry.
Whether the trauma is full blown PTSD or simply ‘micro traumas’, you still need to learn how to face even the most trying times of life.
This is why it’s key to know where your neurochemical weaknesses are so that you can make them strong.
As Bruce Lee says, “Empty your mind, be formless…Like water…You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup…Water can flow, or it can crash…Be water my friend.”
Just change your neurochemistry, so that you don’t crash 😉
Sometimes it can be hard to believe, but you CAN fix your mood issues. I did. Grayson did. So can you.
And I developed SelfDecode to make it easy.
Because I want this to be doable for everyone. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist or even have a background in science.
With our new PTSD and Anxiety Wellness Reports, you simply upload your raw DNA information into the program and let SelfDecode do the work. Not to mention our Mood DNA Report has been a customer favorite ever since we released it last year.
In our reports, we’ll analyze all of your genetics, and then we’ll give you the specific lifestyle hacks you can do to support the weaker parts of your DNA.
You need to want the knowledge.
And if you’re still reading this, you’re the kind of person who’s ready.
So let’s do this.